I find it interesting sometimes how skewed peoples perspective of themselves are. I mean some people think that they have a base of kindness and love when in fact inside they seethe with anger and fear. Because of this they hold others to their skewed view. Expecting things that they themselves do not do.
So what is you definition of social graces and kindness? Is it please and thank you? Is the yes sir yes ma'am? Is it mother may I? Is it boldly expressing your opinion on things that mean the world to you? Is it hiding behind hurtful words in the wee hours of the morning? Is it yelling at people behind a closed door? Is it being passive-aggressive? Is it looking down on others while buzzing on an intercom? Is it ignoring people, is it holding a grudge, is it expecting things of people that are not possible? And most importantly......is it treating people with a pseudo respect all the while thinking you are better because your thoughts matter and the rest of the world is not smart enough or open minded enough to understand.
I think it is interesting that every person has a different opinion of kindness. I have been treated cruelly by those who think they are generally nice and polite. I have also done the same. Been cruel and hurtful....all while touting that I try my hardest to be nice. But I have NEVER felt that I was the only nice girl and others were cruel because they were different or handled things in a different manner.
I only hope I can cement my definition and live by it.